This is my first blog, so I'll tell you a little bit about myself. I was born and raised in Vancouver, British Columbia. Over the years I married and raised two children. I left my ex husband in 2001, I was luck enough to have my father take my daughter and myself in.
Over the next six years I went to work, raised my daughter with my fathers help and spent a lot of time on line. I had a boyfriend in 2006 but there were so many lies it didn't last. Then in 2008 I ventured to Australia to meet a friend on Facebook. He was into playing games and was such a looser that I couldn't wait to leave.
My father passed away while I was in Australia with my daughter. I had put on my Facebook status that my father had passed away. I wanted to let my friends know what was happening. Much to my surprise a man from Saskatchewan sent me a message with his condolences. He had added me to his friends contact list on Facebook.
We sent messages back and forth a few times then it stopped for three weeks. At that point I had decided that I was done looking for anyone. Then he sent me another message which lead to more messages. We started talking on the phone and after awhile talked about one of us going to see the other person. Well it was decided I would go since I had taken a medical leave from work.
I went to see him in October of 2008 and we have been together ever since. We were married last August in our backyard with his and my family present.
It hasn`t been all fairytale and romance. We both have two children each and it hasn`t been easy. I feel it isn`t as hard for my husband as he doesn`t live with my children. They do come and visit but they are usually here for a week to ten days. I have now lived with my husband and his children for over a year.
I wonder if it will ever get any better. My husband`s eldest son and I get a long pretty good now. It has taken a year of talking and communicating to come to this point. My husband`s daughter on the other hand has made it difficult. In the beginning she used my mouthwash, toothpaste and make-up, all without asking. Then she sharpening my eyeliner pencil in my make-up back! I had to throw away my make-up as I couldn`t get the eyeliner off all the make-up.
Then she started using face cloths in the shower, which were left conveniently for me to clean up. When there weren`t any to use because they were in the wash, she cut up towels to use instead.
I know she has been in our bedroom as after being out all day we found a body imprint on our bed! A few items have been missed from our room. Unfortunately she is the first person we think of.
I have tried talking to her but she really didn`t want anything to do with me. There were many times in which I felt she looked right through me. It was only after her grandmother talked to her that she became nicer towards me. Just when I though things were looking up, we found out that she told her relatives that no one in the house talks to her.
I know she hates all the rules her father has set but he does it because he loves her. I have never set any rules for either of my stepchildren. I believe it is best done by my husband. My husband and I had discussed this in the beginning of our relationship. I know if I were in her shoes I wouldn`t listen to my stepmother!
I love my husband so much and have put up with the many issues. Many people think she is trying to break us up. But our love will prevail!
